Investing In YourSELF

I *love* the spelling of my name! How about you? I’m not asking you about my name — I’m asking you about your name.

If you want, be thinking on how you honestly feel about your own name as you continue reading — or — stop for now and come back to this post. (Y.O.U. are way more important than this post!)

You may or may not know that I’ve been sharing my experience, strength, & hope with many women (and some men, too!) for over 2 decades, and although I’ve learned a lot, there’s a whole lot I don’t know.

BTW — one of my favorite new sayings is: “I don’t know what I don’t know.” And I’ve heard it from so many people in the last nine months, that I honestly don’t know who originally said it! (If you know, feel free to put it in the comments — thanks!)

Although it’s been less than a year since I began to intensely study John C. Maxwell’s teachings on leadership and personal growth, I’ve learned a ton, including hearing the earlier statement of not knowing what I don’t know.

Prior to joining the John Maxwell Team Mentoring Program, I had begun learning about HeartSync in 2016, which was founded by Andrew Miller, LCSW. (Look for more writings about his amazing work in the future!) Off-n-on over the following year, I worked on increasing my personal joy capacity through HeartSync’s phenomenal proprietary process. Then later in 2017, I joined the mentoring program run by Andy, his wife, Lisa, and another amazing lady, Cheri — yay!

By now you may be wondering, “What does any of this have to do with whether I like my own name or not?” Great question! Thank you for asking and keep on reading!

During the amazing process of cooperating with PAPA to get rid of the toxic beliefs I held about Him and myself, and then receiving from Him The Truth of HIS Great Love, I began to literally see myself differently, because I began to think differently about myself. (BTW — a powerful thinker and a dear mentor and friend, Bob Hamp, has a ministry called “Think Differently.” I mention it here to not only introduce you to Bob (he and his lovely bride, Polly, are truly PHENOMENAL!), but also to communicate how much I trust and respect both Bob & Andy’s teachings. Of course, they have their own styles and modalities, but lots of similiarities in many ways. I look forward to the day when they can meet one another!)

Now, to get back on track…

As I began to think differently about myself, I began to see myself in a way I’d not been able to before (that’s what happens when the toxic pollution distorting my vision gets cleared out). As I began to grow in my joy capacity in every part of my heart (a.k.a., my brain), I began to see “ME” — the me PAPA Created — His Beautiful Brave Beloved Warrior Princess KINGdom Daughter CowGirl! OORAH! The me who loves my name and delights in seeing my name spelled MelanEE! Or just Coach EE! The me who, because of what PAPA has done in my life, is more than capable of helping other women leaders shatter shame and strengthen SHALOM! The me who has become a more confident and competent leader — and who wants to help as many people as possible to GROW in both their personal lives and in leadership.

So… how are you feeling about your name? How are you feeling about yourself? (Did you think I’d forgotten about you? No way! I truly care about you, Precious Leader — and no, that’s *not* a typo.)

Whether you think of yourself as a leader or not, please know this — PAPA Created people to lead (whether they’re actually leading or following, the leadership principles remain the same). How much you develop your leadership abilities — or to play-off of one of John Maxwell’s book titles — how much you LeaderSHIFT — is up to you. There are people just like me all over the world who are ready and able to help you grow.

So… what say you, Precious Leader? Are you ready to exponentially grow in knowing who you truly are? Are you ready to take action by investing in yourself?

If you answered yes to both of those questions, then reach out — let’s connect!

Let’s get to “the other side,” and let’s do it TOGETHER!

(((HUGS!!!))) & SHALOM!
Coach EE!


Hey there, Precious Reader!

I’m writing this between sessions on an online training to let you know an IMPORTANT update–I have a NEW acronym! (LOL!) It’s one I’ve started using on a regular basis, and it’s R.E.S.I.N! This is what it stands for:


That acronym sums up what my FOCUS is and I look forward to seeing MUCH FRUIT come from it!

Alright–my alarm is ringing, so I must dash for now!

I’ll see you on the other side!



Four Pieces Of EXCITING News!

Howdy, Amazing Reader!

I’m looking forward to contacting you soon–BY PHONE! Yes, the “old-fashioned” way of communicating. (Of course, face-to-face is truly the oldest way, but for now, it will need to be by phone. Hopefully in-person, though, too!)

So… in this post all I’m sharing is this: I have four pieces of EXCITING news to share with you, and PAPA Willing, I will be contacting you by phone (if I have your number), or online if I don’t.

KING YESHUA IS ON THE MOVE! And His Moves are ALWAYS adventurous and thrilling!

Look for my call (or online message) in the next few weeks–I look forward to connecting or re-connecting with YOU!


Writing My Memoir!

Hello there, Precious Readers!

I have some amazingly phenomenal news to share with you!

At 1930 on 13 NOV 2019, I emailed the manuscript of my memoir to my publisher!

WOOHOO!!!!!!! πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰

It took me about one year to write it (once I actually started writing it! LOL!), although I had started writing it numerous times for well over a decade.οΏΌοΏΌοΏΌ

My outstanding support team has been phenomenal–and that’s an understatement!

When I connect with my publisher next week, I will ask her if I may post parts of my book here, so be on the lookout!

Last, but not least, here’s an important reminder from yourοΏΌ friendly neighborhood writer and speakerοΏΌ:

Remember at all times–Whose you are and who you are!


In HIS Great Love!




Radio Interview: Remnant Road

Yo, Readers!

I’m excited to share about the fantastic opportunity PAPA has Blessed me with! He’s Gifted me with the opportunity to be interviewed on *live* international radio on MON 23 JUL 2018! Specifically, theΒ Remnant Road program on Hebrew Nation Radio, co-hosted by Al McCarn, Barry Phillips, Hanoch Young, and my CuzMikell Clayton!

I’m scheduled to be interviewed from 12-1 (eastern), and if you’re able to join-in live, that would be phenomenal! (If not, no worriesβ€”it will be available on podcast.)

Here’s the link for more information!


In HIS Great Love!


A Powerful Voice For PAPA’S Glory!

Hey there, Precious Readers!

I hope you all are well! I’m much better, because PAPA has brought me a LONG ways in the past 26 months — HalleluYAH!! You may have noticed it’s been awhile since I posted on my blog — I’m working on changing that!

I wanted to share the following 100-word true story of using my voice powerfully against toxicity. I pray PAPA uses it to enCOURAGE you to lovingly confront toxic stuff — first, in your own life, and then in how you allow others to treat you.


Warrior Princess Melanee Lisa!


In November 2013, PAPA gave me two opportunities to lovingly confront the main sexual perpetrator in my life.

The first occasion was when I strongly stated, β€œI don’t think sexual jokes are funny,” while he raucously laughed about the sexual overtures he’d made towards one of his sisters.

The second occurred when he went to physically pick me up and I said, β€œNo!” while simultaneously dropping my center of gravity down and away from him.

These confrontations were extremely empowering because, although I intellectually knew I had a voice, that day I experienced using my voice powerfully against toxicity! HalleluYAH!!!


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Am I Surrendering To PAPA Or Am I Being A Pharisee?

KING YESHUA did **not** verbally confront, challenge, and condemn some of the people who were Pharisees “just because” they happened to be Jewish leaders. Rather, He verbally attacked the people who claimed to know about GOD’S Holiness and man’s sinfulness, but who did **not** regret and hate their own sinful thoughts and behaviors, while simultaneously putting heavy burdens on others. And to top it all off, they neglected to care for others in the ways PAPA Commanded in His Written Word.

So… if I claim to accept PAPA’S Holy Life as Lord in my life (am “born-again”), AND I recognize I still have a sinful nature, AND I cry out to PAPA for His Mercy in my fallen condition, AND I rigorously wrestle to bring every thought captive to The LORDSHIP of KING YESHUA (albeit, imperfectly), AND I turn FROM my sin in thought-word-attitude-actions AND turn TOWARDS PAPA — to HIS Great Love! — AND I serve others as KING YESHUA Commands me to — then, and only then, am I **NOT** being a “Pharisee.”

Otherwise, I am being like the ones in PAPA’S Holy Word who claimed Him as their King, but denied His Authority over ALL areas of their lives.

Since I don’t want to deny PAPA’S Lordship in my life, I will be REQUIRED to **deny** my sinful nature. 

And this is an extremely important part:

Sin is determined by PAPA, **not** by my feelings, or the world, or the culture, and definitely not by my arch enemy, satan. 

So… here are the questions: 

Who am I listening to?

Who am I obeying?

Who am I worshipping?

Who am I serving?

And in all of that, how is my attitude?

PAPA has been Faithful in Shining His Light on my darkness! HalleluYAH!!!

How would PAPA answer those questions in regards to your life?

If you are like me, you fail in many areas, and you succeed in other areas. 

PAPA Celebrates with you in your areas of victory!

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And… He Cries for you, as KING YESHUA Wept over Jerusalem, to repent in the areas where you are disobeying Him.


Will you repent right now of each and every area in your life that is contrary to Him and His Living Word? 

Will you surrender to PAPA? Or will you surrender to being a Pharisee?

I hope you choose HIS Great Love!

I’m going to trust Him. You can, too, because He truly is GOOD!!! HalleluYAH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Confessions Of A Rebellious Flosser

Yo, Readers!!!

I’d like to share a little story that might seem to have nothing to do with brushing and flossing my teeth at night, but stick with me and I think PAPA will radically bless your heart!

In KING YESHUA’S Great Love!

Beautiful Brave Beloved Warrior Princess Melanee Lisa
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I no longer have sexualized same-sex attractions — thank You, PAPA!!

Yet…they did not go away by attempting to make-them-go-away — does that make sense?

Actually, I did initially pursue “making them go away,” but fortunately, PAPA had introduced me to Pamela Vest Valentine, a wise, Spirit-filled therapist who let me know that to do so, would just be a Band-Aid. She was a “client-centered” therapist, so she was willing to go that route if that’s what I really wanted, but she also told me that it would not deal with what actually needed to be dealt with — the roots.

The real problems, she said were **not** my homosexual feelings. Rather, she said that my problem was the same problem everyone has:

1. My (mis)perceptions of GOD,
2. My (mis)perceptions of myself, and
3. My (mis)perceptions of GOD and me together.

I immediately asked (it was closer to a demanding growl), “What am I supposed to do with all these other people around me??!!!”

Her eyes were compassionate, while her tone was firmly serious when she replied, “Nothing. You are to do absolutely nothing with other people until you have dealt with the first three areas — enough. And only GOD knows when enough-is-enough.”

She gently continued, “Melanee, you make people your gods…”


(Think, a hard punch to my abdomen, knocking the air out of me — maybe a hard jab to the face, too! And believe me when I say, I wanted to verbally punch her lights out!!)

What PAPA Told me that day through my therapist was this:

If I keep The-Main-Thing-The-Main-Thing…

— My focus being on KING YESHUA and no one else, following Him wherever He leads me; obeying Him (eventually!) in everything He calls me to do; resting IN Him; crying on His Shoulder; letting Him Comfort my hurting, fearful heart; running to Him when others have hurt my feelings; repenting when I disobey Him; accepting His Forgiveness (particularly in visualizing His Cleansing, Healing and Strengthening, Maturing of ALL of me — spirit, soul, body); and much, much more —

…then my ENTIRE life changes!!


A bonus was that my sexualized same-sex attractions dissipated and now…I only have GOD-Given same-sex attractions and opposite-sex attractions like PAPA originally designed each person to have!!!

You might be thinking, “When is she ever going to talk about the hot topic of brushing and flossing?!”

I’m getting there!

The “stuff” I battle today is just as sinful. And any one of them can become destructive strongholds, just like the homosexuality, pornography, and masturbation used to be.

If you’re thinking, “Wow! What could be just as ‘bad’ as sexual sin?” then you’re caught in the same trap that I sometimes get caught in, as well.

Sin — all sin — is destructive, because I’m disconnecting myself from being intimately connected to PAPA.

Okay, I won’t keep you in suspense anymore!

I currently struggle against obeying PAPA in four (out of five) areas He’s Told me to do.

He’s Called me to:
Speak and Write (that’s actually two things together as one), and He’s Told me to Exercise, Eat, Brush my teeth, and Floss my teeth, EVERY day.

Every. Single. Day.
No. Matter. How. Tired. I. Am!!!

And other than eating, most days I fail MISERABLY in the other four categories. Yes, I said most days.

(FYI — eating actually means eating healthy and taking my meds and supplements.)

Well…since I celebrate the Sabbath from Friday evening to Saturday evening, I get a little break, because I only need to eat, brush, and floss during that timeframe!

There ya go! Those are the things that are currently embarrassing me when I’m not obedient. I “tell on myself” to my Sponsor and other accountability folks on whether I’m obeying PAPA or not. And if it starts getting REALLY out of hand, I call my therapist!

In other words, I still have DAILY battles that I can get focused on, ashamed about, worried about, and ask questions like, “Will this EVER change?” or “Will I EVER want to obey DADDY every night about brushing and flossing my teeth???!!!” or “Will I EVER really write what PAPA Wants me to write?” or “Am I EVER going to exercise regularly regardless of the pain?”

You get the picture — and I am not exaggerating!

I really feel those things, think those things, and experience those things.

I can even think SO insanely that I start believing that my value is determined by whether or not I’m obeying PAPA…oh, my…

Another way to phrase that would be a slight variation on what my therapist said back in 1995. Instead of making other people my gods, I’m making my struggles my gods, my obedience my gods, and I can even make my disobedience my gods! Yikes!!!

Something one of my long-distance mentors, Bob Hamp, says goes something like this, “Whenever I make anything other than PAPA my GOD, then I’m plugging into the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, rather than The Tree of Life — KING YESHUA Himself!”

Talk about knowledge becoming a set-up for misery — yikes!!

So, Precious Readers, I share all this to hopefully communicate to you the absolute importance of you “plugging into” PAPA, seeking and pursuing His KINGdom and His Righteousness, rather than change.

I hope you hear me loud-and-clear — I’m *not* accusing you of pursuing change — some of you I’ve never even personally met! I’m just sharing with you how easy it is to get sidetracked off of The Main Thing.

And guess what?! I just fulfilled my writing requirement for the day, too! LOL!!! WOOHOO!!!

Thanks for letting me share!

And REMEMBER: You’re worth it, because PAPA says so!

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